So you’ve decided to finally try your luck with dating apps but are not sure what to look out for. Or maybe you’ve been using them for a while now but are having trouble finding a good match. Don’t worry; after reading this article, you’ll know how to find a partner on a dating app. Here are some tips that may help you.
How To Find A Partner On A Dating App
1. Make Sure Your Profile Perfectly Captures Your Personality
For starters, choose photos that display your natural charm and personality. Although photos with certain filters are alright, you should avoid the ones that change your appearance drastically.
As for your bio, you should make it as detailed as possible. Don’t forget to mention your hobbies, interests, personality traits, what you expect from a partner, and what you want from a relationship.
This will give others some clues about what kind of person you are (before they can get to know you better). Additionally, this can be your way of saying that you are looking for something serious and don’t plan to waste your time on somebody who is only looking for a quick hookup.
2. Be Genuine and Honest
When you start chatting with someone, you should freely express yourself rather than worrying about what you should and should not say. Share your beliefs and opinions without fearing judgment. And if they judge you for it, you can simply move to the next person.
3. Focus on Details
Is your match trying to contribute to the conversation or are you the only one making the effort? If you notice that you have to carry the whole conversation on your shoulders, you might as well stop chatting with the person altogether.
I mean who do they think you are? Hercules? Because that’s way too heavy a burden to carry. It’s obvious; someone who refuses to ask you any questions and makes you feel like you are in interviewer mode is not invested in the conversation.
On the other hand, if they seem engaged and pay attention to the things you say, they likely enjoy chatting with you and are interested in getting to know you.
Mirroring is also another thing to look out for, which occurs when a person subconsciously imitates another’s attitude, speech pattern, or gesture.
So pay attention if they start using the same words you use frequently or if their conversation style begins to match yours. This can be a good sign that they are interested in you and are enjoying your conversations.
4. Don’t Expect instantaneous Chemistry
Many romance movies might have popularized the idea of feeling an instant spark when meeting the one. However, a real-life is different from romance films and therefore, you should not expect to feel an instantaneous spark with someone you just met.
In reality, believing in this can do more damage than good in most cases. For example, you may meet a person who is seemingly different than you from the beginning. But as you continue chatting with them, you discover you have more in common than you thought. Soon enough, you can feel the chemistry popping up all of a sudden, realizing you may found the one you’ve been looking for.
Now imagine if you immediately stopped talking to this person just because you didn’t feel an instant spark. You would have missed out on getting into a happy relationship with somebody you feel a special connection with.
5. Forget About Cliche Questions
Many people dread the cliche questions, some of which usually verge on small talk, and chances are, your match is not any different. So you should refrain from asking them questions like how was their day, or how did they spend their weekend.
Doing this every once in a while can make sense but posing such questions every day or week can get repetitive and boring.
Instead, you can ask your match more thoughtful questions that can allow you to strike up a deep conversation, such as what their future goals are, what are the things they most appreciate in life, and what are they grateful for.
This can help you get to know them better and get a better understanding of who they are as an individual. It can also increase your bond and bring you closer.
6. Try to Reply on Time
Avoid following some “rules” that claim you should wait for a few hours or worse, days, to send your match a message. Especially if you have just matched with them.
The longer you make them wait, the more they question your intentions and whether you are doing this on purpose. Of course, there will be days when you will be busy or too tired to reply. Needless to say, you don’t have to force yourself to engage in chatting when that’s the case.
But if you are free and feel like chatting with them, you don’t have to wait for hours or days to reply.
7. Try a Video Date
Are you enjoying chatting with your match but are still unsure whether you want to meet them in person? Then a video chat can be just the option for you.
Unlike real dates, video dates don’t come with the same level of nervousness and pressure. Plus, you can do it from the comfort of your home.
A video date will help you determine if there is chemistry and compatibility between you; the two main tell-telling signs of every successful relationship.
8. Meet Up When Your Heart Tells You To
Have you begun feeling comfortable while chatting with this person? Have you noticed your trust levels increasing significantly?
On top of this, does your heart also tell you that it may be time to finally meet them in person? Then you better listen to it because your heart rarely lies when it comes to matters like these.
So go on that first date and look out for more green flags to make sure they are just as nice in person.
Final Thoughts
Although finding a partner on a dating app may seem challenging at first glance, following these tips can help you make the whole process easier. So continue matching and chatting until you find the one that sweeps you off your feet.
